It’s easy to notice everything that is going wrong. But the mere fact that you are typing “everything wrong” means there’s a SHIT-TON of things going right.
It’s a simple matter of changing the lense to give yourself a break.
Your brain is a really smart internet search engine and it really Really REALLY wants to please you. If you ask it “what’s going wrong?” it will diligently run off and find everything going wrong and report back ASAP.
When you first ask it “what’s going right?” there will sometimes be a knee-jerk “nothing!” response because it’s still working on the previous search. What to do, oh what to do?!
You prompt it.
Ask again, then start without it so it knows you’re serious about this as being more important than the previously assigned task.
Notice your baby toe. Is everything good?
Send some gratitude to your happy feet.
Did you noice your last breath?
Awesome! Your automatic breathing system is rockin right along. yay! Gratitude appreciation for the breath and lungs, and that healthy happy heart.
Did you have to relearn to type to make this post? Incredible! Your muscle memory, your brain signals to muscles and muscle signals back to brain are superb today! More gratitude! You might even get crazy and send your hands and arms and brain some unconditional love!
Your keyboard, mouse, computer, internet, browser, operating system, your eyes — yup! all going right!!
What about the sub-atomic particles in your body? Are they holding their electrons and protons and neutrons as expected? SWEET!
I get where you are, I’m on just emerging from a very similar long term health & life upheaval situation. There were days I could barely get out of bed. The only thing I could do for myself to help myself was to make up little non-songs – singing random tones that felt good in my body.
So I’m speaking from tools of experience when I offer this process.
It’s simple, it changes everything.
Tony Robbins says the antedote to anger is gratitude. You cannot be angry and grateful at the same time. You cannot be fearful and grateful at the same time.
So whenever anger / fear / life being a shithole is dragging you through the mud, take all the energy of “grrrrr!” and use it to focus on gratiude until you feel the state shift.
Tony Robbins advocates living in a Beautiful State. There are many roads in to a Beautiful State. I even wrote a little song about it & set it as a pre-alarm. So I wake up to me singing happy words to myself before the “get out of bed now” alarm goes off.
Love, Joy, Gratitude, Appreciation, Awe, Playfulness, Ease, Drive, Creativity, Curiosty, Caring, Growth.
I started a practice of focusing on one every morning and I’ve recently shifted into drawing mind maps about it.
write “me” draw a circle around it
write “gratitude” nearby, draw a circle encompassing me and gratitude
write “beautiful state” neareby, and draw a circle around all of it
This kind of visual speaks in the language of the brain. It’s a more direct way to input data than sentences. I feel my body shift when I look at the mind map. It’s out in plain view, so everytime I walk by, I get a little “hit”.
I could keep going, but that’s plenty to get your mind playing in happier places for a while.
Create a daily practice for yourself that creates time and space to step out of the yuck.
Oh, wait, you have one of those handy Masculine Brains! Make it a mission to find everything that takes you out of the yuck. Use that automagic single focus to your advantage!
I am in NO WAY advocating avoiding the yuck.
It’s important to dive into it in useful and restorative ways.
I am advocating balance, a break from the downward spiral.
Because when you return to tackle the yuck? You’ll be far more resourced and your solutionator will be fully On.
That’s a far as I had typed, I was ready to re-read, final edits, and post it.
Facebook interrupted my typing, popped up a message saying I was a “security risk” and locked me out for 3 days while they “verified my photo”.
What do you think, are my thoughts a threat to society?